If I asked you what your relationship is to money, would you know what to say? Have you ever thought of you and money as having a relationship together? Or is money like that nasty aunt you don’t talk to anymore – part of the family but you’ve stripped away any semblance of a “relationship” long ago?
Money is energy. What if you were to replace the word “money” with the word “energy”?
“I don’t have the energy for that right now.”
“How much energy does this cost?”
“I wish I had more energy.”
(I asked Alex to come up with a sentence that included the word “money” for this exercise and he came up with “where’s my
money energy, bitch” 😉
Money is the simplification we have created in our society to be able to exchange with one another for the things that we need; items,services, ideas etc. Because when I need new clothes, you might not need my tomatoes in exchange for them. So we determine the value of the exchange with a number, and make our exchanges with the neutral agreed upon exchange material, money.
However, many of us (myself included!) have ceased to see money for what it really is and instead give it massive power over our lives and our happiness.
If we don’t feel that we have enough money to pay our bills, or to live the life that we truly desire and crave, we enter into a contentious relationship with money that only perpetuates the same story – that we don’t have enough.
If I told Alex over and over again that he wasn’t enough for me in this relationship, that because of him I could barely have what I need let alone what I truly desire and crave, he would not be terribly inspired to step up and give me more of himself.
Our relationship to money is much the same concept. So tell me about your relationship to money. What are your money values?
For a long time my relationship with money was similar to my relationship with my ex husband; manipulative, dramatic, unpredictable, abusive, and it always left me feeling broken down and not good enough.
I believed that I would always struggle to have enough money. That in order to have enough, or more than enough I would have to work really really hard, be very very lucky, and be extremely worthy of the abundance.
My vision of my financial situation was what I focused on. The debt, the worry, the struggle, the uncertainty around how it would all ever change.
“If you continue to look at lackful what-is and speak of what-is, you will not find the improvement you desire. If you want to effect substantial change in your life experience, you must think thoughts that feel different as you think them.” – Abraham Hicks
So I began to focus on how I want to feel in my relationship with money. I decided that I didn’t want to worry and stress over it, I wanted to feel confident that I could rely on money to be there when I needed it. I recognized that I, like so many others, equate money to a feeling of freedom, and I chose to focus on that feeling instead.
Then, like any belief that we choose, I began to see proof that money was in fact always there when I needed it. And that I could feel free from the prison that lack had locked me up into.
I invite you to pay close attention to the thoughts that you think about money, and how those thoughts make you feel.
- Can you pivot negative thoughts into positive ones?
- Can you focus on what you desire, instead of what you don’t?
- Can you show money that you’re in this for the long haul and you’re ready to begin paying close loving attention to it so that your relationship can heal and flourish?
Energy goes, where attention flows, and where it flows, it grows.